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Grown-Up Mom

By Lisa Steven, Executive Director, Hope House of Colorado

“I don’t want to be seen as a teen mom anymore! What do I have to do to be seen as a grown-up mom?”

I was surprised when Jamie called and asked to visit our new Resource Center in Westminster, but I was even more startled by her question. I had kept in touch with Jamie, trying to maintain a relationship after her painful exit from the Hope House Residential Program last year.
Just three weeks from graduating, asking Jamie to leave was terribly hard – especially when she had come so far, earning her GED and becoming a certified nursing assistant. However, Jamie had simply stopped participating in the Program. She had a job, and she was such a good momma to little Darrien. Unfortunately, as graduation neared, Jamie’s attitude changed. For weeks she was angry, unmotivated and rude. Her employer let her go. Finally, after yet another angry eruption, we asked her to leave.
Needless to say, Jamie did not take this well! Yet she did move on – she moved in with her aunt, got a new job, bought a car, and then got her own apartment. When we would meet for coffee, however, resentment still simmered.
Thus my surprise at Jamie’s question. I answered her honestly.
Jamie, the people you spend time with help define you. If you want to be a ‘grown up,’ spend time with older moms who have kids Darrien’s age. When you post on Facebook, ask yourself if you would read those words out loud to your child. And give back – when you give to another, it takes your focus off of yourself.
Two weeks later Jamie came to our Valentine’s party, one of the ways we build community among our teen moms. Jamie sat next to Ashley, a quiet girl who sat alone. A week later Jamie brought Ashley hand-me-down clothing and invited her to her women’s small group at church. For the last three months, every single Facebook post has been positive. Last week Jamie shared that she and her fiancé are doing a Bible study together. She teared up, saying she never pictured herself at this place in life.
We have a simple message for our Hope House girls – God never stops loving you, no matter what, and neither will we – you are always a part of our “family.” We will be here when you are ready to come back.
I am proud of you, Jamie, my grown-up mom!
By Lisa Steven, Executive Director, Hope House of Colorado

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Believe in your children and they will believe in you as the Hope House team members believe in you!
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